Me and my boyfriend have both started losing weight. I’m a female 5’1 and was originally 150ish lbs. And my boyfriend is 6” and was around 200lbs. I have struggled with disordered eating most of my life and because of this my habits aren’t ideal and my confidence is pretty low. I used to be 180 lbs in 2016 but lost 50lbs down to 130. Met my boyfriend and gained about 20lbs because i was much happier and didn’t care about my body as much. Around us being together for one year we got professional pictures taken, and i couldn’t believe what i looked like. I’m pretty short so 20lbs looks like a lot, especially when it goes straight to my chest and arms. I couldn’t fathom how i gained that much weight and didn’t notice. I decided i was going to lose weight again and for the first few weeks took things slow. Then my boyfriend said he wanted to lose weight too. I thought this was a great way for us to bond and have fun competitions. It was going great, we were both motivating each other and having fun while working out together. We had just finished a workout and were about to shower, and he stepped on the scale and seen he had lost over 10lbs with in two weeks. I was shocked but congratulated him. That’s when i started paying attention to what he was doing to lose so much. The same things i was doing to myself! I thought i was being healthy until i seen the man i love repeat my actions. Restricting, over exercising, skipping meals, ect. I learned to lose weight my own way, and not from a place of love for my body but hate. Does anyone know what i should do? How i can help him from going down this path and help myself on the way.