Okay, so I’m a 27 year old gay man. I came out when I was 21, and started hooking up and going on dates, all that stuff. I fell in love a couple times, got my heart broken a couple times, etc. I’ve been single now for almost 3 years, and since then, I’ve only hooked up with a couple people and have barely had any sexual contact. I’m talking like…. 2 sexual experiences a year. I feel like maybe I’ve become too hyper-independent, and I can’t explain it but, I feel scared to fall in love or start dating again. I’m on dating apps, and I find cute people to talk to and get to know, but then it’s like my brain just says “no, stop, it’s not gonna happen” and I completely lose all interest and abandon everything. I’m lonely and I’m craving love and connection again, but I just feel soulless in that way. My body just feels incapable of feeling that desire, though I want it so bad. I’ve been in therapy for a couple months now, and I’ve touched on it a little with my therapist but I just don’t have a good explanation as to why I feel like this. Am I traumatized from being hurt in the past? Is it because I’m really busy with school/work and don’t have the time? I just can’t figure out why my body can’t accept the fact that I need connection. Like it just feels like there’s this brick wall inside me that won’t allow me to get close to people anymore. What do I do?