I feel like my biggest hang-up and what makes me feel the loneliest is that a lot of the friends I make are reserved and prefer less extroverted or frankly exciting (by my standards) activities.

I love them all to bits and think each friendship has its place and that they don't need to all fulfil the same role in your life BUUTT

I'm moving into my third year of uni and I am naturally a group person, I love community settings and doing things with a more-the-merrier attitude or even just adventuring with one person...just spontaneous activity.

I enjoy parties, going to the pub, going clubbing, sitting in the park, maybe going out to do life drawing or for a jazz night or a long hike and picnic? that kinda thing.. I wish my friends would all go out to the scruffy local pub on a Friday evening religiously with me or go on adventures of any variety.

Instead (and I'm talking about my housemates mostly) if we go out we come back at 10 or 11 in the evening having been to a quiet pub and done nothing or we sit around in the evenings on our phones or they spend them in their rooms watching tv or spend their whole weekends with their boyfriends... I just feel grief for what the relationships could be and what we could be doing and the memories we could be making....
Like it takes so much convincing to get them to actually want to do things which don't revolve around spending large sums of money or are largely basic

I've come to terms with it more over the past couple of years and expanded my circles to include people who do like those activities but I can't stop the feeling of FOMO for what uni is presented to be. I think maybe having COVID during college/sixth form (UK) years too I missed out on a lot of initial young adult socialising, like the first parties and building the skills to make new friendships.

Anyhoo these are all just my raw thoughts if I went through and analysed them a little more they would be a lot more polished. So take it with a grain of salt and lmk if you have experienced this.