Unedited Preamble

I've spent a lot of time screaming into the void. Trying to make friends. Trying to make connections. I'm weird and I know that. I'm OK with it, but it does make it difficult to make friends.

But at the same time, I'm busy as shit and burnt out as fuck.

I started writing the below post, and I just couldn't finish it. I'm so fucking tired of being alone that even my search for people to make connections with makes me feel lonely.

At least when I have a post in flight or some threads that haven't been pulled on I can have some hope. But a post has a lifetime of about 16 hours. After that there are no new connections.

And so screaming into the void almost becomes a job unto itself. Are you screaming right? Into the right voids? Using the right words? Saying enough? Not saying too much? Talking about the right things? Not talking about the right things? Because it's always your fault. There's always something you can do.

And I'm going to edit this post. I'm going to keep trying. I'm going to keep going. I haven't given up yet and I will not. I will keep going. I just hope, maybe other people will stand with me.

Edited Body:

I'm tired of being lonely and I want to do something about it

Introduction

I don't have a third place, and I've almost given up on finding one. There are so many constraints on my life and realities of where I live, that finding a 3rd place isn't really in the cards for me right now. But that doesn't stop me from being lonely, and I know I'm not alone.

The 4th Place

I want to create a 4th place, or a 5th place, onwards to infinity. Although it is theoretically to have too much connection with other people, it's so far from being the problem I'm currently trying to solve that it might as well not exist.

So what is a 4th place? Well, it's essentially the same as a 3rd place, except it's another one. To be more specific, the 4th place I'm trying to create is online. Because I have forged some of the strongest relationships in my life online, and because online is so accessible to so many people.

The Plan

The start of the plan is a discord server. Why? Because it's cheap (you can't beat free), and supports best-in-class low latency audio connections. Allowing connections and conversations to flow (almost) as naturally as in person.

But a discord server is not the end of the plan, because discord servers have a host of problems, some of them solvable, some not.

What I want to talk about

I want to talk about conversational theory, and really anything else that comes up. I want to talk about what reddit is good and bad for. What causes you to join and leave communities

The problems with discord servers

Small servers (Incomplete)

Medium Servers (Incomplete)

Large Servers (Incomplete)