Hi! So, I once met an amazing person on an R4R subreddit and we had a fantastic relationship. Unfortunately, things didn't work out in the long run, so I thought I'd post again and see if I can meet another amazing person here! I have no problem finding dates in the real wold, but I generally find it really rather challenging to meet somebody at random with the same extracurricular interests as me, and I’m hoping I might have some more luck here (again!).

So, a bit about me; I’m 29, 6ft tall, blond, bearded, "dad bod" for want of a better term 😂, quite a type-A personality (although outside of work I’m reasonably easy going!), and very driven to succeed in whatever I do. I’m an engineer by background, though I now spend the majority of my time on the business side of the equation. Outside of work, I have a couple of large groups of friends I see quite frequently for dinners, drinks, talks, trips to galleries etc. as well as being a keen motorcyclist & yachtsman.

I’m generally a pretty passionate person, and when I find something that excites me I tend to get very into it very quickly, though I must add it's not too often I find new things that make me feel that way! I'm an active motorcyclist, and I love taking people out on the back of my bikes for day trips or longer. I love to travel, and have a long list of places I'd love to have someone to visit with! I adore museums, I love learning about new topics, and I thrive off of social interaction. I'm extremely outgoing, and I think meeting new people is one of life's biggest joys; I truly believe we are all the sum of our experiences and as such it's our duty to have as many experiences as possible!

I tend to seek out BDSM focused relationships as it's an important part of me that I need to feel fulfilled in. I've successfully had several in the past which have been great, but have ended for various amicable reasons. I’ve also been in vanilla relationships, but alas whilst I’ve really liked the people, they just don’t satisfy me sexually. In the bedroom, I like to be in control. I get off on the control, humiliation, and on your helplessness. I've known this about myself since I was very young, and I know that I need this part of me to be satisfied. I've got experience in a wide range of kinks, and I thoroughly enjoy exploring new ones. I only have a few hard limits, all of which I'll be happy to discuss with you if we get that far!

It should go without saying, but consent is extremely important to me, and I would always be absolutely certain that we had established clear consent before doing anything. Additionally, aftercare matters hugely to me, and I'll always be the first one to pull you in for a cuddle.

Outside of that, I’m just a chap who really knows what he wants from life. I love snuggling up on the sofa, and I absolutely adore spending time with my partner doing interesting things or just having a nice dinner date. I want somebody who I can take to dinners, events, introduce to my friends, and take on adventures. Really, I want a partner. Somebody to be by my side as we, together, face the challenges that life presents us. Only once in my life (in my last relationship) have I been in a relationship where I genuinely felt like we were a team, and that feeling is something I would love to have again.

I'm a very supportive person of other peoples goals, and I like to help people where I can. It can take a bit of time to really gain my trust and for me to drop my guard, but once my trust is really gained theres little I won't do for someone. I value loyalty above most everything else, and it's the number one thing I look for in anybody I get close to. I'm not interested in anything other than a monogamous dynamic, and I won't be sharing you with anybody haha!

I don't want to cause any offence, but I also don't want to waste anybodies time, and these are just my preferences, but as far as physical types go I do tend to go for women shorter than me, and I tend to prefer women who are more towards the slimmer side of the spectrum.

I’m extremely discreet about my bedroom interests, and I’d ideally like you to be as well (at least in the company of people I know). I’m DDF and would need you to be as well.

If you’ve reached this point and you’re still interested, I’d love to hear from you! Please feel free to drop me a message, I prefer chat to Reddit messages but realistically either is fine. Thank you for reading this far. I hope you all have a great end to the week and a wonderful weekend!