I’m a married guy from Sussex, 36yrs old with two kids and a good home life. The one thing that is missing in my marriage is a sexual spark which I’ve tried to address lots of times in lots of different ways. She’s not interested in trying to overcome the issues and I’m now at the point where I’m just going to stop trying. Outside of that we get on great and are very good for each other in most aspects.

I’m pretty sporty, like to watch and play most things, love to watch a good crime drama or binge a series and try to be fun most of the time. I’m not in bad physical shape but do enjoy a bit too much food at times and I’ve not been as active as I’d like in the last year or so. I work full time in a pretty interesting job and happy to share stories if we get along well.

I’m looking to find someone in a similar position to me that’s looking for that extra bit of fun outside of their marriage. I want a bit of adventure, the connection that leads to attraction and physical intimacy. I’m not just looking for someone to sleep with or send me pics but instead someone that I can get excited about seeing / hearing from. You don’t need to be living near me but ideally want someone in the UK in case things go well and we do meet.

I had an affair a few years ago with a colleague that led to pretty big feelings for each other and it was difficult when it ended. I’m now a lot clearer in my head about what I want and why I want it and handle things before they get too deep. I’ve not met anyone on Reddit before and when I have messaged people I’ve really struggled to find someone who’s genuine.

I can’t imagine there’s a queue of people wanting to reply, but if you are interested send me a message. Tell me a bit about yourself, your situation and why you decided to message me instead of any of the other posts on here.

Happy to exchange pics early after some initial chatting and I prefer to keep conversation on here to start with.