So I've been limerent for a friend for a year now, more or less since I met her. I want to spend the rest of my life with her, I want to take care of her, I have a lot of romantic attraction to her. She's got trust issues and doesn't seem to be attracted to me anyway, but we're pretty good friends and see each other once a week or so. I left my partner of 10 years in part because I wanted to find something like the level of magic I feel with LO, and also because we'd become really codependent and don't want the same things from life (introvert/extrovert, etc.).

I've met someone via an app who I definitely like a lot and we've started what seems like it'll be a relationship. I don't know if it'll succeed in dislodging my limerence--that would be great but feels unlikely. But I do want to put as much as I can into this new relationship. Any tips from people who've moved on from limerence by finding someone new?