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I (35f) met my potential LO (37f) (I’m not sure if it’s limerence or good old fashioned one sided crush tbh) dog walking. As we spent more time together I realized I had mad feelings for her, despite being hetero my whole life (or so I thought). She is married and as far as I know not attracted to women.
I got brave and told her how I felt. She didn’t feel the same way but very much wants to stay friends. Here’s the odd thing- we message each other every day. If I go a day or two without messaging she tells me in so many ways that she misses me. She wants to hang out regularly and of course I always say yes.
I think about her constantly and fantasize about a life together, and conversations where she confesses her love and plans to leave her husband.
Im not seeing much on this thread from people who’s LO seems to want to spend time with them As well.
I have been friends with my LO for almost a year. It’s so painful. Being close to him but never close enough yknow. It makes me feel like such a bad friend. He genuinely is so so so good to me, and is such a captivating person. He deserves everything in the world yet I can’t even be a true friend as much as say I am because I am so consumed by limerence. I have never ever let myself be totally alone with him- we’ll be in public or with his sister or something - because I know that I cannot take it. I would act on that opportunity in .0048 seconds. I don’t think I could ever tell him how I feel because that poses such a great chance of losing him, but the closer we become the more pain im in. And the more awkward it kinda becomes. Because I can’t be fully present
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I have been thinking about this a lot recently! At this point, almost year deep, I know that someone has to know. Anyone with half a brain would be able to see it. With him specifically he genuinely may not and/or it’s a really troubling thing for him. He is trans. He’s been through a lot of fucked up bs relationship wise. And dating for anyone that’s trans is really scary yknow potentially dangerous.