Really need some suggestions here, will try to make this short as possible.

Me and my LO work together, but for a month I’ll be working offsite most days and have no chance of seeing her. So far I am 11days into the month and have had to report to the main site (where we both work) twice. On 1/2 of those days I bumped into her. She said “hello” but I walked right past her without looking at her or speaking, she was confused, but kept walking.

I have about three weeks left off site. One of my work friends (older, like an aunt to me) mentioned how this month off site would be good for me to get my mind off her. But I haven’t been using my time wisely. I REALLY MISS HER and as a result, I think about her so much basically not being too productive in getting over her. I resist the urge to do most of the things that feed into the limerence, but somethings are hard to give up. For ex. I know I need to delete the photos I have on my phone (hidden album on the iPhone) and stop thinking of her when I…. Use my vibrator…. certain TV shows trigger me to day dream of me and my LO being a couple having a family, etc…. Then sometime later, I come to my senses and realize those thoughts are part of what’s holding me back.

2 LO’s ago, my LO was my college professor who I took 3-4 classes with. The NC began after I graduated but it took me just about 10-11 months to get her off my mind. If past is prologue, then I won’t get over my current LO for the next 3.5 years because I have a contract with my job for 4 years. It’s hard to say if I really am NC since I see her at work on a roughly a weekly basis and sometimes have to speak to her about business related affairs.

Aside from mindfulness what else can I do to get over my LO??? It is driving me insane, the cycle of missing her and daydreaming of us married/intimate and having a family….then hours later…. trying to get over her.