This is just a thought but maybe someone can relate? I am over my LO and I am not limerent for my current boyfriend. I really, really like my bf but I don't feel insane like when I am limerent. I have a alot of love to give and luckily my boyfriend wants the love and to love me back. So, I think I am much happier and stable now than I was when I took LO hostage.

Anyway, I have noticed that I have this appreciation for people, I want them to know they're special. I go out of my way and sometimes that is misinterpreted as desperate or something. I'm not desperate, but I do think that I saw my parents, especially my mom, completely undervalue my father. Repeatedly. She still does this, they've been married 2,000 years and she doesn't seem to like him as a person and he's a very funny, introspective and intelligent person. Not that my mother sees this, all she cares about is how he is "making" her feel and whether he is doing what she told him to do. Immediately 🙄🙄🙄

I am thinking that seeing this dynamic my whole life has made me want to "see" men's good traits and appreciate them. I have a sensitivity to emotionally unavailable men, I guess because I want to help them access their feelings... all because of my parents. Im in therapy now, going to go over this! I want to live my own life, not play out a cycle where I treat some guy differently than my mom treats my dad. I am my own person!