Sparked by another post just now, I realized that a) I would love to see any of the dozen or so LOs I’ve had in my life tomorrow and b) I feel like if any of them were interested in me I’d seriously consider leaving my SO. Well, almost any of them—counting again, it’s 9 of 16.

I looked up one—owned a bookstore with her then-husband 1993-2006, since then an occupational therapist. Bought an apt by herself 13 years ago, seems to still live there. This is someone I crushed on when I was an 18-yo sophomore; she wasn’t interested then and probably wouldn’t be now. Why would I rather take a chance with her than with my SO, who loves me?We have problems—she’s disabled and can only do about 15% as much socializing as I’d like to, so I do a lot myself. I don’t know how I think I should feel about this.