I see many coaches with the seductive marketing pitch - you can hit it out of the park financially, make millions, or you can find your deeper purpose and passion . . .you can make "the difference" in the world, and/or doing something that benefits and improves the planet . . .these messages are very popular. . .we have whole personal development and spiritual development industries, courses, gurus, leaders pumping out and marketing this stuff 24/7.

Rarely, if ever do I hear coaches suggesting that maybe the Universal intelligence behind everything and what is playing out in the world and in each of our lives is somehow "right" in its design . . .and coming from that awareness - ask the question: how can you can fall in love with your life as it is and as it isn't right now or how can you want what you've already got and consider that maybe you might just be having the "right" human experience this lifetime, right now. If you could get right with life as it is, do you really need to be chasing after millions of dollars - and what is it that actually drives that?

Of course my job as a coach is to get behind and support what goals and aspirations a person has. . .including the above mentioned things - i.e. to support someone going for lots of money, "going big", worldly success, fame, the grandiose lifestyle, etc. etc. . .However, there's another side to a lot of these goals that rarely gets talked about in the media . . .although we are starting to see more of it now. Here's a good article on this from a therapist who works closely with ultra rich individuals talking about their lives - https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2021/nov/22/therapist-super-rich-succession-billionaires?CMP=Share_AndroidApp_Other . . .really begs the question - "why would you be enamoured with the pursuit of a life like this if it wasn't in your space / on your path?"

I find that the pursuit of those things often is more just a distraction for someone to NOT be with or confront their life or aspects of their life they find intolerable as well as to distract oneself from having and feeling the negative and challenging emotions (i.e. anger, grief, sadness, fear) that arise naturally as a normal and natural part of the experience of being a human.

Have you ever wondered and contemplated why you were born to the parents you have in the time and place you were with certain specific circumstances, gender, siblings, health, opportunities you have? I've come to think that maybe there's no mistake at all with this. . .

Perhaps some people come into fame, success, fortune to piss everyone else off - yet there are aspects which come with those life experiences of those who have it on their life path to go through them - which "balance" things out making them less desirable once we can clearly see the whole of a person's life and not just what they or the media wants you to see.

I am finding personally and with the people I work with - more and more - that the more someone can really get "right" with the life they have, what they've already created, make peace with things. . .something profoundly cool can happen. There can be a real deeper sense of peace - without the constant running around trying to get somewhere else and not being present (and missing out on so much of life as a result).

The things where we get triggered - i.e. anger, sadness, fear, etc - and it's pretty much always something external that triggers - i.e. a partner in a relationship, job event, world circumstance, COVID, etc. . .maybe these actually are all just wonderful opportunities in disguise to "process out" the aspects of ourselves that are unbalanced . . the parts of us that are not loving or not neutral - leaving one with a space of more compassion and love.

I find it really strange the notion we should be happy all the time. . . the Facebook, Instagram, Walt Disney, social media messaging that show happy people. . .the insinuation that "you should be happy" . . .it's just not real or based in reality. . .

It's normal, natural and there's nothing wrong to sometimes be angry, sad, have grief and there's nothing broken or nothing that needs to be fixed when experiencing these things.

I haven't found there's not really a big line up of people wanting to hear this message. . .perhaps we'll see more as there are fewer distractions (i.e. less things to buy as supply chains woes increase, less freedoms due to COVID) or we start to see more through illusions . . .or perhaps there will be new distractions and novelty like virtual reality to go get lost in to escape life (with the new Metaverse, etc). . .we'll see.

The question is - do you want to learn how to love life more as it is, and be happy with wherever you're at - or are you looking to try to escape it more and more? There is no right or wrong path. . .all good whatever direction. . .I think - invariably it's impossible to escape having certain emotions if that's what on the path. . .you can run but you can't hide sort of thing.

The path to loving life as it is involves expanding one's capacity to have and feel the full range of one's emotions / feelings - including the ones that are challenging to hang with - realizing that it's a normal and natural part of life having them. . .peace and joy can really be had anywhere.