Happy New Year and much love and joy for 2022!

I was reflecting on this. . .it seems like most want to be successful, have lots of money, the dream relationship, etc etc . . .and life coaches and consultants and whole industries are set up market to these desires. Much more rarely do I hear anyone ask to be free from the torment around the attachment and "driveness" that arises from the idea of - "I must have to have to have _______ or else I won't be happy".

There's an expression - "you can't get enough of what you really don't want". . . Worldly success is a case in point. . .I was listening to an interview between Howard Stern and Kevin Hart recently where both were saying "what a joke worldly success is". . .it's cool when you first get it but a pain in the ass when you have it and a rather silly thing to spend one's life chasing and continually going for more of. . . and that was coming from a couple of guys who are uber successful. . .basically saying the same thing - you can't get enough of what you don't really want.

You could say the same about money, relationships, sex, etc . . .that there is a whole other side to these things that have you wondering why you spent so much time and life chasing them once you get them (i.e. once you get money, you now become preoccupied and worried about not losing it, having it been taken, etc. or once you get a relationship you were really attached to having, it never turns out the way you thought in the beginning, etc)

But what is a person to do if they're not preoccupied chasing and really attached to things?

Consider - what if the much bigger accomplishment this lifetime might be getting to a place free from the "I must have to have these things to be happy". . .and just chilling out and enjoying life as it is right now, just as it is . . .which doesn't mean you don't have goals. . .but rather your happiness and peace isn't dependent on whether or not you achieve them. . .more like peace and joy can be had anytime and anywhere - even with the world in the state it's in right now.

Last night, I had one of the best New Year's Eves ever - completely alone. I ended up going for a beautiful moonlit snowy walk with my dog along the coast, enjoying a wonderful meal, dancing in my kitchen to my favourite music I love for hours, and luxuriating in a hot bubble bath until I fell asleep. At some point in the evening it dawned on me . . .in many years past I might have been tormented by the idea of being alone on such an evening and would strategically try to go to events or parties looking to meet someone from an "attached" perspective . . .and I realized I much rather would be alone and have way more fun than be with someone where I was trying to make something happen with. . .

Of course it would be different if it was with someone who showed up when I was completely unattached not caring whether or not I had someone in my life at all. . .but that's not what I'm talking about here.

Seems to be a new avenue that many of my coaching clients are looking to explore these days . . .