I'm an older cis-gendered pansexual woman who is occasionally attracted to individuals who identify as trans or NB on dating apps and in person. I find myself petrified to approach them, because I'm scared of accidently misgendering them. When I get nervous or excited, my mouth can run faster than my brain (adult ADHD). I of course apologize and try to do better, but inside I'm angry at myself for not catching it earlier. I have no desire to hurt anyone, so I don't approach.

Does anyone else get like this? If so, do you have any tips for me to move past this, learn, and evolve? I tried searching the group, but I didn't see anything addressing this situation.