tl;dr If I just don't subscribe to the Hollywood stereotypes of womanhood and amatonormativity, can I consider myself genderqueer - or has society just poisoned the term woman for me?

I will preface this by saying, I am quite privileged to feel comfortable with who I am and not often bothered by most of the assumptions and labels people assume of me.... I'm just curious to explore more of my identity and find people who can already relate.

I was born and identify as female. I do not identify as woman. I do identify as a "guy" and don't identify as a man. I am not sure if this is because I simply reject the stereotypes that society classifies as womanly traits?

I dress and express hippie femme I'd say, I like defining my breasts and waist - I don't often groom my legs, but will sugar them maybe a few times a year. I find male friends much easier to make than female friends and I have some light hearted penis envy. I also recently deepened my connection with my femininity by learning how my body cycles through fertility and then growing and birthing my first baby as naturally as the medical system would allow. I feel like most women don't seem to enjoy the experience of pregnancy and childbirth... so this experience hasn't really made me feel any more like "a woman".

I'm also aromantic/arospec. For background, I find infatuation repulsive and I'm confused by most romance. I actually thought that romance was just a thing a lot of women like and the men I know find annoying or disingenuous. I was surprised to find out recently that men also typically are romantic and desire that connection, albeit not in the typical Hollywood displays.

So am I queer because I just don't subscribe to the Hollywood stereotypes of womanhood? Or am I cis female who just doesn't like the word woman and the typical gender roles that heteronormative society imposes?