I've been out as bi for four months and bigender for like two weeks and I remember signs of what you might call a homo-sexual underground as far back as like 10 years old. What worries me is that my gaydar absolutely does not exist. Like I've been told by people that I set off their gaydar when I looked like the most hetero guy man on the planet (shirt and jeans, no piercings or tattoos, but ling hair ig) and that people can tell when seeing a fucking painting by a gay person, while I can't tell things like that at all. Although I guess I don't really think about what people's sexualities and identities are unless I'm attracted to them.

Just asking how common this nigh nonexistence of the gaydar is, because as far as I'm concerned every lgbt person got their's in the mail the moment they were born while my shipping address got lost somewhere along the way.

P.S. the "need advice" flair is there because that's the closest thing to "question" lol