I think I've truly heard it all since coming out as genderqueer.

To give a short list, I've been told that I'm:

Too Black for queer spaces

Too queer for Black spaces

Not trans enough (my favorite is being told that I'm too much of a coward to just say I'm trans)

Not femme enough

Not attractive enough to be taken seriously.

Not valid because I'm not on hormones (I don't want to be)

Too old to decide now.

And that's all off the top of my head.

This isn't so much a sympathy post as I can handle a lot of this on the surface. It's moreso a communication about how we treat other queer poc and apply the very standards we claim to be against to them. I'm not really sad or upset as much as I am just disappointed. I've been queer for over 14 years (am currently 35y/o) and I've never felt more pushed out by other queer folks than now.

I hope others who have felt this way or gone through similar find spaces where they're appreciated, because it goes to show that just because you're in the same community doesn't mean you're truly welcomed by many.