I (30F) am about 9wks pregnant with our first child and my wife's (30F) parents are very much displeased. They are Eastern Orthodox, sort of like Greek orthodox, and very archaic in terms of LGBT, women's roles, family types, etc. FIL is the "keeps his opinions to himself" type, but generally supports his wife. MIL is the biggest issue here.

We had kept the news from them since we had signs they would be unhappy about it, but my wife decided it was time to rip off the bandage so to speak. She sent a very long email (it's MIL's preferred communication method) detailing various things: that I am pregnant after our long battle with fertility, that my wife expects MIL to treat us as a couple, give us common respect, basic boundaries of a healthy relationship between mother-daughter. Well, MIL responded.

She basically ignored all the boundaries my wife tried to communicate. MIL told her that a child is "created by a mother and father" and insisting we are doing our little nugget a disservice raising them in a mother-mother household. Flat out ignoring that the "father" is a known donor who we are good friends with and has agreed to be known as the donor to the child should the question come up (he will be the "fun uncle" to them).

MIL also said that I stole my wife away from religion and God and that we are spiritually sick. We need the healing only God and his true church can provide and that she knew I would do this from the moment she met me. This also ignores that when wife and I had first met, I went to church with her and did everything I could to learn about her religion. I was willing to accept it and support her in it, but it is wife who made the decision to step back since Eastern Orthodox is very anti-LGBT.

To add to that, she claims that my wife "has bought into my ideas of God" and that I have convinced wife that we won't be punished for this sin we are living. She claims we are ignoring half of ourselves by ignoring our spirituality and that returning to church and God is the only solution. In past emails, MIL has insinuated that my wife leave me and move back to live with them so they can help her seek God again.

This is the same MIL who told my wife (years before we met) that she did not have real struggles with mental illness (despite that being disputed by medical professionals) and insisted that she didn't need her medicine. She claimed that my wife was under the influence of demonic presences and needed to attend confession more.

All this to say, it's been a rough day. Wife knew this would be the case, but had been holding out the sliver of hope that a little baby would help her parents find the love in their hearts. We are debating going no or low contact with her mom, and will be asking her dad if he shares the same strong beliefs. If he does and does not want to see us outside of being him and his wife, then we will go no or low contact with him as well. That will be really hard on my wife as her dad has an autoimmune illness and she worries for his health. She doesn't want to be someone who has no relationship with their parents until they are old and feeble.

I'm thrilled we have a little human to look forward to and get to watch grow. My wife has been elated and the happiest I've ever seen her since we found out. She accompanies me to the ultrasounds, and has cried every time she gets to see the heartbeat. We both are so ready to be moms, I just wish others could share the same happiness.