I (mid 30s M) am going for a weekend to an LGBTQ-hotbed beach town to celebrate with my gay brother and a bunch of his girlfriends and my girlfriend. I have absolutely no clue how to handle this. I'm out to my gf but not to anyone else in this group. We'll also be a bunch of seemingly straight people in a famously gay-destination town, and I'm uncomfortable if I feel like I'm imposing in a safe space for a group that doesn't always get to be themselves in many areas.

I do struggle with not feeling like part of the queer community since I get to be in an LTR and haven't had to be outed to be able to have a partner. Overthinking this may be part of it. I think everyone in our group has a SO, meaning there won't be anyone out on the prowl and people should be generally tame. There will be a lot of hot men around in not much clothing, though, and I don't expect my brother and his friends to be quiet about how sexy they find them.

If you have been in a similar position to me, or have been queer in a special queer space with non-queer people, I'd love to hear your takes. I may just microdose shrooms the entire time to keep my sex drive at bay 😂