Hey LGBT, Putting aside the nuances of my personality, I'm your regular straight cis white guy. I've had lots of queer friends over the years in every shape, color, and orientation, some of whom are like family to me.

I've been with my wife for nearly a decade and though we didn't know it at the time we got married, over the course of the last few years, my wife has come to realize and accept that she is bisexual, neurodivergent, and polyamorous. All of which I whole heartedly support and encourage her in. We have always been exclusive to each other and are committed to each other beyond what I could have hoped for.

We are now starting to explore ENM after therapy (together and separately), reading the books, and making sure we are in the best place possible. We expect it to be messy and hard, but we're not seeking out a unicorn, or a third. We're both seeking the relationships we want separately.

My problem is I have a type, and forgive me if I use any non-prefered terminology, but my type is: Bois/queer AFAB/bisexual or lesbian women.

My question is this: what can I do to be considerate, respectful, open, honest, and forward while seeking a partner in a demographic that is largely uninterested in me as a partner?

To clarify I'm not asking "how to turn a cute lesbian straight so I can be happy?"

When the LGBT community has been marginalized and persecuted by people who look and sound very much like me, how do I actively find a partner without alienating individuals with my advances?

I don't want my desire for a partner to negativity impact anyone.

Thanks