Hello all,

I am a 32 year old seeking connections close by or online; whatever the universe brings along at this point. I am not seeking serious relationships, but I am not entirely against it if someday it flourishes.

About me: I work two jobs and I’m studying psychology although I am pausing it due to some life changes. I may be changing majors once I finish my associates though. I have a cat, and enjoy reading, writing, cooking, making art and getting into whatever hypefixation that’s next in line. I am diagnosed with ADHD, so my hobbies do change here and there when I have the time. I also am a system in regards with OSDD/DID. You can ask about that if you wish.

I am in my Victorian/velvet goth era but I am masc appearing with some cutesy undertones. I consider myself androgynous but I am born female. I love black and has always been my hyperfixations. Everything in my apartment is black (except the walls cause I’m not spending that kind of money only to undo it for whenever I leave). I've had this fixation since I was a kid and even to this day, I am very picky about how black everything must be.

I reside in LA. I like to go out when I can and plan for in advance. I enjoy going out and meeting people and getting coffee which I absolutely love. Sometimes I’ll hit the bars for some drinks. I am poly/ENM but I am single and prefer to be single at my pace as I get to know more people. I am not monogamous and that will not change.

I am heavily into kink for hedonistic adventures, and I just can’t do vanilla. But that stuff takes time for me to get into with someone. Trust and the vetting process is important to me as a top. This also connects with my DID, as my main alter is much more heavily into a kink (a Primal Sadist). I also want to explore cuddling and kissing more with friends or whatever and just be free. I am breaking away from societal and religious constraints that have made me live a life of guilt and feeling terrible about myself, my body and my desires. I just have so much love and care to give but even that does have its constraints as I am careful not to be taken advantage of again.

I’m 5’5”, a bit on the thicc daddy side but I’ve been losing weight due to health reasons and for health purposes (I follow a keto diet most times but allow myself a treat), I have dark brown hair past my shoulders a bit (used to have butt length hair but had to cut it). I’ve dyed it black a few times but it never lasts long. I have semi fair skin and freckles, and I can share selfies if needed. Maybe exchange IG handles? Aside from that, I do want to explore new places with new people especially restaurants. I’m a foodie (but with some dietary restrictions). Let me know if you’re interested in meeting? We can go grab some coffee or lunch. And if you live far we can totally be friends and share memes and silly IG reels.

I match energy with people. If I feel you stop sharing interest or don't seem to care about making an actual connection, I will drop you. I don't chase or waste my time with others that don't wish to reciprocate the same effort and energy as I do. selfie