hi! my name is viv and i’m a masochistic femme lesbian in search of a feminine dominant woman who is a sadist, affectionate, and looking for a friends w benefits type of situation. i’ve tried posting on more bdsm oriented subs but figured i might have more luck on a lesbian personals sub :) also, i have a very particular fantasy, so do bear with me haha.

i would like to find a woman who can play the role of someone who was particularly popular in high school or college (bonus points if you actually were, are also a good and kind person now, and who still has dominant tendencies!). blonde queen bee, heather chandler, is the archetype. and while you don’t have to be legitimately blonde, i think you get the gist.

i wasn’t heavily bullied during school, but i did experience deep desire for the meanest and most conventionally attractive girls. they were my friends to an extent but also made jokes at my expense and sort of made me feel lesser than. regardless, i couldn’t stop being drawn to them and feeling the need to be their friend. it wasn’t till years later that i realized i was a repressed lesbian, and probably in love with them AND being treated poorly. i would now like to live out a more involved and adult version of that.

in this relationship we would text and know about one another like regular friends would. nothing serious, just casual texting every other day or so (though i would not be opposed to more). the only difference is that you would have the freedom to be particularly mean to me. preferably, this would also navigate sexual territory. for example, making fun of me for being a slut/horny, demanding i say or do embarrassing things for your pleasure (sexual or non sexual), using me as a form of release/vent (sexual or non sexual), teasing me for being obsessed with you/women/masochism/etc. i’m sure there’s a lot more i’m not thinking of, but i hope this gets the point across.

i, of course, can only take so much meanness, even if i do enjoy it. so, the affectionate part would be reassurance and kindness ever so often. for example, using pet names that are degrading but also sweet, telling me i’ve done good sometimes, and allowing there to be sweet moments between us mixed in. my fantasy definitely surrounds a mean girl who has a soft spot for the girl they bully. i guess i would be sort of like a pet!

furthermore, this would probably be mostly online. i am very picky with people to be quite honest, and i would be looking for someone that i am both physically attracted to and mentally attracted to (this goes both ways of course). the odds of finding someone who is interested in this kind of relationship, that meet my criteria and that also lives near me is very low. so, i have accepted that this will probably be online only. if we become very close friends, then of course i would love to meet someday :)

anyway, this is just a very rough idea, as i’ve never done this particular setup with anyone before. but i would like to try with a willing and thoughtful partner! obviously this only highlights my wishes and desires for this relationship. so, if you are interested, feel free to tell me what you are looking for, so this can be a balanced and fun experience for both of us!

also, i will require verification within 2-3 days of talking and catching a vibe, as i was recently catfished! it was very upsetting and i’m honestly a little anxious to post this and look again, so please be patient with me. especially if i’m a bit wary.

any respectful questions about the post are welcome. thank you and thank you for reading this far!