I'm not sure if I'm venting just to get this out or if I actually plan to return to read responses, so keep that in mind. I actually do wonder about the following, though, so who knows.

What's up with...

1. Queer women posting here wanting to chat with/meet other women, and then when you write to them they could not possibly appear to be more uninterested in chatting with you? Absolutely no questions for you. Half-answering your questions, and doing so in a way that feels kind of...like an obligation or like answering questions for your schoolteacher, doctor, job interview or something? Has happened multiple times. Don't have this problem with guys, unfortunately. I'm wondering if this is lack of interest, a lot of queer women not knowing how to "talk" to other women, a lot of us being awkward/lacking social skills overall, a lot of queer women wanting the fairytale without actually putting effort into it, or...? If it's that these women get too many responses, I do get that because I got 15 responses to one of my posts here once, and it's definitely hard to juggle that. But I'm sure that's not always the case.
2. Queer women bothering to respond to your post directly (i.e. chat or the inbox) only once or twice and then disappearing? Again, has happened to me far more with queer women than guys on Reddit. It's not like I haven't ghosted women, but it was after getting enough data to have real reasons to not want to continue with them. It was not after one message.
3. Queer women here and on other subs starting a post or responding to one to chat/meet and then, at some point, being like, "I'm busy"? K, why did you bother? I get it's a brush-off or alternative to ghosting a lot of the time, but I've had two women swear up and down they were really interested in me and simultaneously bullshit with responding--not just a few days, either--or do 50 million other things while chatting with me, including socialize with other people and play video games, and then berate me because I allegedly want them "to put [their] life on hold" when they "have other things to do." Yup, video games and people you see all the time...so urgent every single day! I've seen many other posts from queer women on various subs for our demographic where they basically say in the post that they're busy, i.e. work, school, crazy schedule, but still want to socialize. Like...again...is it that many of us just don't understand that building friendships/relationships take time, communication and effort? Why does it seem everyone nowadays thinks it's okay to spend very little time on others/not give people the attention they deserve and have those people stick around, and if that's not okay with those people something's wrong with them? Again, is this an overall social skills issue, or what is this??

I know a lot of people here probably want to dismiss this with whatever "it's not just queer women" excuse or can't relate, but I seriously do not have these issues with guys on Reddit. The only reasons I've chatted with guys on Reddit is some have tried really hard to chat with me--harder than most queer women--and I've also had some pen pal posts for shared interests. Regardless, these are more reasons I hate being a lesbian and reason 972, 973 and 974 why I'm going to die alone.