I will always be a creature of hips and shoulders, it comes with my intersex and trans body. Additionally, I will always be a creature of dresses, suits, skirts, button ups, and all else I desire. I love the interplay of my fashion with my body, and always will.

However I've had the way I dress this body confronted with the two sentiments in the title, from both queer cis and trans women. Essentially, 90% of the time I am perceived as trans feminine or trans masculine, and these womens' feedback on my clothing and bearing are meant to help remedy that.

It's nothing new or unique that we marginalized queers attempt to police each other's looks, it happens within every marginalized community. For trans people like myself it stems from the very real danger we face for not adhering to a certain level of palatability to the cis gaze.

I opened this discussion with hips and shoulders, my two conflicting traits that get me clocked on the daily, and how I love to accentuate them with my fashions. Additonally, some photo examples of various outfits that make me smile, even though they are not passable, palatable, pacifying fashions.

So I ask, what are some traits you love that you've been told you ought to downplay by the world, and how do you push back against that and reclaim them? Let's educate each other on the unique pressures we face as marginalized women and queers so we can better lift each other up!