My (53M) GF(42F) suffers from CPTSD, which manifests in a lot of ways - intermittent alcohol abuse, severe depression and suicidal ideation being the main signs. We've been together for 4 years now, off and on....it's been rough, but I'm still committed. Some would ask why, and it's hard to explain, but the simple answer is that I love her and she's been let down by too many men in her life.

She got a DUI about a year and a couple of months ago, in Mesa AZ. It happend about a week after she was released from 2 weeks in an accute care facility for people at high risk for suicide, which followed an attempt that I physically prevented.

The circumstances of the DUI were suspicious. This is a woman who always errs on the side of caution WRT drinking and driving, and she has the Uber records to prove it. She had driven to a pinball arcade on a weekday afternoon (she had lost her job while in the accute care place) that served alcohol to meet a person, male, who she has been friends with since HS, with whom she connects with once/year or so. She intended to walk home - less than 2 miles - and leave her truck overnight afterward. She says she remembers playing pinball, and then standing on the side of the road while police were trying to adminisster sobriety tests (which she refused, but volunteered a blood test). The cop had apparently seen her truck idling through a red light, that she presumably stopped at, and then passed out. He apparently got out of his car, and ran alongside knocking on the drivers side glass which woke her enough stop the truck before it hit anything. I am certain she was rufied, and extracted herself from a sketchy situation by getting in her truck as she started to realize that she was way more fuckedup than she should have been, or maybe something happened to her...we'll never know.

She ghosted me for a day and a half afterward, and finally I went to her house and found her in bed with the black dog of course, and she told me the story. I tried to convince her to do a rape kit before time ran out but she refused to get out of bed. I squeezed hard, and after an hour or so of that, she broke up with me and kicked me out of her house. Of course she changed her mind after the opportunity window for the rape kit had expired, and managed to get on her feet.

I encouraged her to find an attorney, and loaned her the down payment. She scraped up the rest - total of $5,500. The DUI happened in the early summer of 2023, the attorney was paid off in the fall, and the court date was scheduled for January and then....she began to just flat refuse to pick up any calls from her attorney. She blew off her court date. The attorney covered for her and rescheduled, continued to try and get in touch, but she just couldn't face it and wouldn't pick up the phone. I encouraged, beseeched, demanded, tantrumed, pleaded got broken up with a few times, and as the 2nd court date approached, I even reached out to the attorney on her behalf and discovered that she hadn't even told the attorney about the memory gap.

I get that it's highly circumstantial and speculative, and without a rape kit there's nothing to corroborate this theory, other than "mood swings" described by the officer in the report. It's possible that the blood samples picked something up but that's pretty unlikley, according to my research, since all date rape drugs have extremely short half lives in the body. I don't know why she won't confront the guy - she claims that he's not the type that would do this, but maybe she's just scared of him.

Anyway, the attorney told me that she had already burned through the whole $5,500 retainer and she was abandoning the case if my GF didn't start working with her in time for the 2nd court date. She blew off her second court date too, of course and now has a warrant out.

She lost her house to foreclosure last summer as well, close to the one year anniversary of the DUI, for the same reason - just unable to adult. Says she would pick up the phone to call her mortgage company and just physically couldn't dial the numbers. I believe her. She and her two dogs live with me now.

The silver lining in this is that the house sold at trustee auction for more than the note so she's got some money coming in, soon which she's either going to use to rehire her attorney and deal with the DUI or use to find another place to live if she chooses to be an outlaw, because that's where I am drawing the line.

TLDR: What steps should my GF take to address the warrant for her arrest? Hire the lawyer and turn herself in? Is there any way that the likelihood that she was drugged could help her?