So I dated this girl about 4 years ago , she harassed me for 2 of those years after I just could not mentally , emotionally , or physically be around her because of the amount of abuse I was enduring it felt like either I was gonna die or she was going to kill me in her blind rage. I tried my best for those two years to just ignore her , but even then there was a point in between those last two years where her manipulation tactics worked and she said she got help and was better and I didn’t even agree to date again but I did agree to simply keep things cordial and respectful and just remain associated I guess , but even that became some psychotic chase for her and she started getting angry at me when I didn’t want to hang out or if I was responding or posting to other people before answering her texts so again I tried to explain to her how fuckin irrational she was being and how it doesn’t make any sense to treat me that way when for 1. I had already made it ABUNDANTLY clear I was NOT attracted to her anymore physically or romantically and 2. You don’t treat friends that way it’s weird (and that’s short and simple version believe me when I say I was sending longggggg explanations in a careful and articulated way so as to not trigger her or make it to where it falls on deaf ears) , and when she showed that she was not going to hear me out I was forced to just find the peace and clarity I needed from that situation in myself and I literally deleted myself from social medias and stopped interacting online because I knew and she proved many times she was watching my every move, and even then , it didn’t work. She showed up at my friends house one day while I was WAITING for him to pull up cause I got there before him and she showed up with 5 people packed in a small car to fight my FRIEND?! And when I asked why in the hell would she even want to do that it literally made zero sense at all , she said my friend was talking smack (I have no idea about this because my friend didn’t say shit to me but he had argued with her before defending and I told him not to respond to her because any reaction is a win for her and I guess he did respond to her without telling me so even more so why I was so caught off guard by it) and then they proceed to fight and she fought horrendously and in the weirdest way possibly because my friend was just trying to get their hits but she was grabbing hair while taking her boot off and hitting my friend with it ???? And then literally took a MASSIVE chomp out on my friends calf and I’m pretty sure I still have that picture somewhere on my phone because their whole calf was black blue green and purple for two weeks after and it was in that moment I realized her tormenting me and whoever I associated with wasn’t ever going to stop and I had already exhausted all the options I could think of besides trying to get a restraining order so that’s what I did next , and at first I was trying to get on on my ex and the friend of hers that showed up to help jump my friend but she bumped into her lawyer friend (because her friend has a tract record and goes to court often) and I didn’t have any legal representation and it did intimidate me I guess so I asked for another 30 days to seek counsel but by then I had just decided to drop my case with the friend and focus on getting one on my ex because it was explained to me that I could just add the friend onto the last of associates of my ex that would also not be allowed to message me. And once the second court date rolled around I had everything I needed all the screenshots of texts , tweets made attacking me and talking shit about my life my family and my identity , threats to take my life from her and her friends , messages where she was flat out bashing me to her friends I got from her phone when we were dating prior , and a bunch of other shit and she didn’t even bother showing up. Which was good just in the way that it went my way and the restraining order was granted , but just for two years since me asking for forever didn’t sit with the judge I guess. But here we are two years later , and she has just made a dummy account on Snapchat sending me a request , I literally felt my throat sink down to the pit of my stomach when I saw and I don’t know what to do, I haven’t been able to sleep well, I’m looking out the windows because I’m afraid somehow she’s gotten my new address since she has somehow found my new phone number I changed when I got the order placed , I’m letting my family know to keep an eye or or to avoid any random calls , and I hate this. I hate that she did this to me and I don’t know what to do. Should I accept the request and see how conversation goes ? Do I tell her directly to stop trying to reach out ? Will that make her angry and push her harder to find me ? Because I could also ignore it ? But that might also make her push harder to get in contact with me ? I’m just - I don’t know what to do , I was thinking to accept and then just ???? Wait to see if she messages and the MINUTE my boundaries aren’t respected to just find a way to say okay you haven’t changed and this is why I have enjoyed the legal time and space we had between us and why I would like to CONTINUE to enjoy my life without feeling like at any moment she could just pop back in simply because she hasn’t stopped thinking of a way to speak to me again? I don’t know I seriously need some help.