I was a very troubled child and extremely neglected by the school system and the medical world at large due to being autistic and defiant/violent (due to mental conditions).

A Foster child unrelated to me recently entered my family named Andy and he also has a bad track record but is actively bettering himself. We are friends and he is technically my uncle but he is younger than me. I call him my cousin.

He was recently suspended after the school I used to go to called him to the office and asked if he was related to my father and was asked (IE, He was called to the office to be asked this question) "are you related to ----?" (My deadname, I am transgender.) He then replied and stated "You mean /////?" My new name, he was trying to be respectful and has also never really heard me called ---- before. Continuing what the interaction had between the principal and my cousin (Andy) The principal then said "Whatever he wants to be called now." And andy retorted with "*She's* Named /////, and I think you should be respectful" and then the principal said "I think thats all I needed." And then suspended him for 3 days and that was the straw that broke the camels back and sent him to RAPs (Juvenile school basically.)

Does that not sound quite a bit off/illegal? To profile him because he is a troubled kid and when I am disrespected behind my back and he defends me to basically say "Go to raps or get expelled". I'll probably never be able to seek legal consult

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I'll add onto this by speaking a bit more about myself

I'm an 18 year old who has been homeschooled and mostly separated from the world by my situation and previous social encounters that have left me entirely antisocial (working on getting my first job in a few weeks hopefully)

During my early years I went to the same school Andy did and was mostly neglected by it as far as I can remember. Multiple teachers were very rude to me And most of my teachers hated me because I was special needs.

The special needs aspect relates to me being autistic and as far as we can tell I may also have some kind of schizophrenic-psuedonym. I have experienced hallucinations both auditorial and visual for a long time. While in school I was supposed to have regular breaks from class to go walk around to keep myself calm (I did not enjoy large groups of people), I was supposed to be kept in the front of the class or near the teachers desk to avoid me getting bullied (which I frequently was due to being autistic and mostly outcast and honestly quite fugly) and because of my poor vision (I wear glasses but they have never worked quite perfectly for me).

I got almost none of that, infact many teachers outright ignored it and said I wasn't getting special treatment because they could "See I was faking it". I Have alot of trauma from that time that is probably not very fresh in my mind but a few key things I can mention are

I had a principal drag me from the line I was in in the hallway to a bathroom (At probably age 9-10, I cant quite remember) because I had one of those tattoo's for kids on where you could just wash it off with water on my arm. She then proceeded scratch part of my skin so badly her nails cut into me until it was entirely off my arm.

One teacher had a corrections officer come into my room because I was asking her to abide by my treatment plan for my issues and *handcuff my foot* to the desk because I was trying to get up to call my mother. She then blocked the door and prevented me from leaving.

This is literally only 2 things. I have been suspended for shit I didn't do a dozen times and was almost expelled and sent to RAP's over a dozen things I didn't do or could have been prevented if the school DID NOT NEGLECT ME in the first place. I should've had a therapist, I should've been able to leave class, take my medicine, etc etc etc.

Should I filed a complaint for them using my name as a way to profile him? Regardless of what he said its apparent they were out to get him simply for him being related to me. Could it be counted as Retaliation due the conversation being cut off immediately in a dismissive way after he defended me? ty in advance !!