My son and I moved to New York State to be closer to family, but my husband had to stay in the state we previously lived in due to work requirements. We are not separated or divorced.

I am applying for universal pre-k at the school in the district we now live in, and they are refusing to accept my son unless his father/my husband signs the forms as well.

Long story short, I am not able to get the signature they require. Is this legally allowed? Nowhere in the requirements for the program did they mention that both parents signatures were required, but they are now accusing me of kidnapping my own son and refusing to allow him to attend pre-k without a signature from my husband as proof that he is aware I am in New York.

While I am in contact with my husband, he is currently angry that we left the state, though he did consent to and agree to it. Without getting into the details, he has anger issues and we are not in a great place. I felt I needed support from my family, and we agreed this was the best decision, even though my husband is lashing out and refusing to sign the paperwork.

TL;DR: can a school district require signatures from both parents (married, no separation or custody agreements) in order to allow a child to attend universal pre k (state and federally funded program, only listed requirements are age and residency)

Thank you for your help!