I (23F) think something is seriously wrong with my boyfriend’s family. He (26M) had major brain surgery 2 weeks ago. The surgeons removed two brain tumors and relieved a lot of built up fluid in his head. But before all of this, his family refused to take him to the hospital even though my boyfriend was clearly deteriorating and they knew about his diagnosis. I also heard that his mom didn’t want him to go through with the surgery.

Now that surgery is done and he’s back home, I’m not allowed to see him because they don’t like me anymore for being too pushy on getting him medical help. I barely know what’s happening with him and am scared if they’re going to neglect his upcoming doctor appointments. I don’t hear from him much, and his family has also refused to let his friends come see him too. I just found out that all of the money that he saved up in his bank has been nearly drained.

I’m worried that something’s going on and that his family is being controlling and possessive of him. I’m probably gonna have police come do a welfare check on him soon. How should I move forward about this? I’m at a loss, and any advice or help is appreciated. Thank you.