My best friend brother who is 39 passed away 3 weeks ago today. He and his roommate went to Miami for vacation. (We live in IL) She said when they got there, they took a nap and he didn’t wake up. There are so many things wrong with this as it stands.

She has major inconsistencies with what actually happened. Every person that’s talked to her has gotten different versions of what happened. We are trying to get police report. Waiting for autopsy and toxicology report. She refuses to give us anything of his. Even iPhone(just got it three days ago, but she changed his passcode)and Apple products (they are all under one Apple ID) he made me his legacy contact on his iPhone, but I had to wait for death certificate for Apple to even consider the process. It’s been about 4 days since Apple received it. Anyway- during this time- she has changed his passwords to bank and has been taking his money. She got refunds for plane tickets. Got refund for Airbnb. Using his bank cards.. up until last week when they could finally be froze.

When we finally got his iPhone, not only did she change passcode but refused to give it up until yesterday. Not even 24 hrs later it somehow got changed and we can’t access anything anymore. (My request for Apple legacy contact is still under review however)

Something is wrong with this woman. Three family members told her she wasn’t welcome to his celebration of life. She shows up still. She called today asking for some of his ashes.

The bank said they are pressing charges.. but what else can we do? We are going to their house with my other brother who is next of kin so we can finally get his things. (He didn’t have a will or executor of estate. Both parents have passed, he’s not married or has any children. He is gay, so she wasn’t even a girlfriend) we are calling police to be with us in case she doesn’t let us in. Can they arrest her at that point? She has no legal right to anything, but she is acting like a gatekeeper and quite frankly a complete psychopath. We are trying to do everything we can because nothing is making sense.

we need to let our brother rest in peace, and she’s making it impossible. Can anyone tell me what the police will need from us to make an arrest? Or any advice? We are not processing his death and won’t be able too until karma gets her.