As much as you want the church to give you some education into these feelings and sex they are clueless.

Remember the first presidency once said no oral. 😬

Then you have Bishops who were recommending Jodi Hildebrandt to men or couples and she ended up ruining these families and individuals. Some of which were friends.

The church excommunicated Natasha Helfer for teaching sex positive outlooks that are healthy because it was against the notions that all sexual desire besides being with your spouse is sinful.

I regret all the times I shamed my husband. Now my marriage is the best it’s ever been. I regret not ever exploring my own sexual needs and repressing them where now in my 30s I’m learning what turns me on and how to enjoy sex.

As a woman the church teaches us very harmful ideas. My mom grew up in an era that they called women grotesque if they wore a revealing backless dress… my mother in law even told me that she had an active sex life with her husband until she joined the church and leaders started making her feel unworthy for wanting sex. They eventually divorced. The gospel has very little if anything to say about sex and so does the temple.

I just get heartbroken by these posts of good men feeling shameful and seeing things as evil for something that is inherently natural and beautiful.