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My partner and I have been talking about getting into the swinging lifestyle for a while now, about 6 months or so. At first, we just fantasized about it, probably thinking we would never actually dive in, then eventually made plans to go to a lifestyle club.
For anyone familiar with this lifestyle understands that communication with your partner is the most important thing. My partner and I have incredible communication. As we began to look further into this lifestyle we talked about any and every scenario and whether both of us would be ok exploring or not. We discussed hard “no’s” that neither of us would be comfortable with as well exploring the things we would like to experience.
We are TBM and wish to continue our membership in the church. We enjoy holding callings in the ward and we participate with many service opportunities. We are excited to see our children grow in the gospel and hopefully choose to serve missions. We would love to serve a senior mission as well!
What does this lifestyle mean to our membership in the church? To state the obvious we understand this would be breaking the law of chastity as well our temple covenants. I could probably give a list of things we are justifying by getting into this lifestyle but… they would just be justifications. I think the main thing we hold onto is that we both decided together about getting into this. The idea what a married couple does in their private time is their own business.
We would love to hear any other TBM members who have had experiences in the lifestyle. Feel free to shoot us a dm if you prefer not to comment here!
Also have friends and family members who put up a front about having a happy marriage but have cheated on their spouses or don’t love them anymore but are with them because of money and/or status. Or worse to keep up appearances for their parents.
They are miserable but look so happy in church but talking with them in private and you hear them talk so badly about their situation and spouses. It’s heartbreaking.
But swinging is not for couples who have a bad marriage. And you have a bad marriage if you can’t be your authentic and true self with your spouse. You need to be able to talk openly, communicate and trust.
You’re making a lot of assumptions and by far worse I mean the child and sexual abuse cases that have happened to people we know and continue to make headlines. So until the church or its leaders can actually use the spirit of discernment let’s allow people to enjoy their marriages without judgement.
That’s very common since my first experience my husband and I were already very active in bed but now we are constantly up to something 😏 One rule of the lifestyle that we have learned is, do it only if it brings you closer together. Enjoy 😉
Are you sharing your opinion from personal experience?
We have friends who do this as well and are in good standing. A lot of members don’t realize how common this actually is.
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You’re correct maybe not in good standing according to the handbook but I know of too many leaders that do far worse and remain in the Bishopric or Stake Presidency.