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I've been married to my husband for a few months now, and we both entered the marriage without any prior sexual experiences. Since our wedding night, we've been intimate almost every day. I've been exploring ways to become sexually aroused and reach a climax, but I'm struggling to experience an orgasm. Despite using vibrators, trying various positions, and having extensive foreplay, all of which have been helpful in arousal, I haven't been able to achieve a true climax. Occasionally, I experience squirting, but I don't believe it's the same as an orgasm. This situation leaves me feeling a bit frustrated, especially seeing how easily my husband can recognize when he orgasms.
I wonder if this might be related to my libido, which seemed to decrease after I started using birth control before our marriage. The birth control made me feel depressed, so I switched to an IUD, but my libido hasn't fully recovered. My gynecologist advised taking Vitamin D supplements, which has helped a bit, but I'm still searching for ways to improve my sexual experiences.
I'm curious if anyone else or anyone else's wife faced similar challenges. Were you able to find a way to reach climax? What worked for you? Thanks in advance for your advice.
Iāve come to learn that women orgasm in different ways than men. Meaning we experience a variety of orgasms that come in different intervals and levels of intensity. We cannot compare it to how men orgasm because itās they are pretty straight forward. Now there are intense orgasms where you feel like youāre going to pass out and your legs cramp up and you donāt know whether to cry laugh and scream in pleasure as your body convulses but those are rare because they take a lot of build up and we sometimes donāt have 1-2 hours to do foreplay, edge, and do all the things.
What helped me a lot was learning how to focus more on my clitoris and have something in me whether anally or in my pussy. Dildo, butt plug or his hard cock. While having my clitoris simulated.
By the way this is why most porn shows women having such intense orgasms because they are being overly simulated and itās happening for an extended period of time.
When doing clitoral simulation you will have to pass a certain threshold that is sometimes impossible to pass because itās so sensitive that you almost canāt handle it. š„µ
And sometimes your man canāt last that long plus no man should be trying to last over 30min. I like making my man go fast but sometimes he gets revenge and lasts too long that Iām orgasming to the point I canāt take it anymore and Iām exhausted. Thatās usually when I get a UTI because I donāt clean up afterwards and just pass out. š
But what Iāve found to be a true sign of having a really amazing orgasm is not being in your head not forcing it and knowing you go in different levels and stages. Also men you will know your woman has orgasm if her pussy is swollen and pulsating. Yes, we pulsate when weāve gone and itās wonderful and everything is sensitive that even cleaning up stimulates it.
Hopefully this helps. šsorry I tend to be a bit graphic but I really enjoy sex. And this was something I struggled with for a few years when I started learning really weird ideas about sex from church manuals and advice. Iāve come to learn that some Bishops donāt even know that women can orgasm and even some guys on podcasts usually alpha male podcast believe women donāt orgasm which says more about these men and their poor wives. š¬
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