I will give you my background and then pose my question :

I grew up in a very conservative home. Chastity was the repeated lesson for us, I think because we were in the Netherlands and sex and sexuality was discussed so freely there. Boys were evil until you got married and once married, sex was for making babies only and sex for pleasure was never discussed. I was chaste and pure until I was married and a virgin on my wedding night. I think I was so preoccupied with the wedding night and scared about being naked in front of my husband that I failed to enjoy my actual wedding day and the ceremony and celebration that took place. (turns out there was nothing to fear and i married an amazing and very considerate lover)

After getting married, my husband was very gentle about getting me to open up and accept that I am allowed to enjoy and desire sex and intimacy. Over the years we explored more aspects and dynamics of sex, discussed curiosities and fantasies and desires and wants. Now 25 yrs later, We are in an open relationship where i not only have sexual relations with other people, but i am quite active intimately with other women.

We have have 3 beautiful daughters that we have raised in the church who are all active, one has served a mission and the youngest is talking about submitting her papers when she turns 19. We have taught our girls chastity and tried to encourage them to be chased, but have also discussed how pleasurable and wonderful sex can be and how bonding it can be for a couple. My Girls don't know about our open relationship

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So the question:

Have your views on Chasity and the importance of chastity stayed the same as you were taught as a YM or YW or have they changed with age and experience? Do you wish you had experience sex/sexual intimacy with your partner before you were thrust into it on your wedding night? How do you thing your relationship(s) would have been different if you had?