I know one of the primary purposes of coming to this earth is to have children and families but for as long as I (23f) can remember I’ve never wanted to have biological children. I’m a big believer in fostering and adopting but I just can’t make myself want to carry/create another human being.

Every time I try to talk about this with anyone in my family that is LDS I always get something along the lines of “you’ll change your mind when you get older” or “once you have a baby, you’ll feel better about it” or my least favorite, “but your purpose is to be a mother”.

I just feel like there are hundreds of thousands of children in foster care that are waiting for a family and I know I have the experience and skills to give that to them. And just because I did not give birth to them, that doesn’t mean I wouldn’t be their mother?

I’m not sure what I’m looking for here, I guess I just wanted to see if anyone else has struggled with either not wanting kids in general or not wanting biological children when the church is so focused on raising children and families? Or if anyone has any advice?

Edit as a quick side note: I am already married and my husband is completely understanding, it’s more pressure from everyone else. Also we are already certified to be foster parents. We are not actively looking to foster at the moment, we did it more so that if anything happened to my sister, we wouldn’t have any problems taking in my nephew as she is a single mom and there aren’t any other options for him other that state care aside for me.