Hi, my (28F) boyfriend (30M) has been putting me down when it comes to my sexuality. I knew I was into women from a very early age, and due to my culture, I kept it to myself. I expressed it more to my friends and partners from when I was 18.

As of now, I have been more open when it comes to my sexuality and I have told some family members. Still haven't got the guts to tell my parents, but I believe they will be understanding.

The one thing that hurts me the most is telling someone you trust, and they put you down because "You've never had a sexual relationship with a woman". In my teens I secretly dated women, but never did sexual things physically. I was scared of being caught.

Anyways, moving on to the point in question. My boyfriend of 5 years has always denied my own sexuality, and it's starting to hurt me because it's like he's rejecting a piece of me. It's not like I can up and leave to experience it, as I'm in a committed relationship. Although, he did give me the opportunity to go for it, but he later changed his mind saying. "If you're going to have sex with a woman, then I should be allowed to have sex with another woman.".

I should also mention that me and my boyfriend haven't had sex in over a year! And, trust me I'm initiating it, but I always get rejected.

Excuses include: "I'm too tired" "I'm not feeling well" "It's a bit late" "It has to be spontaneous".

It really has made me feel insecure, and I spent the last year thinking something was wrong with me. I changed my looks, currently trying to lose weight as I feel unappealing.

I don't know, I just need advice or to know if someone is in the same, if not similar boat as me.