Edit: I'm gonna try editing before I give up and delete this. I'm looking for friends, and a validating community of queer women, not a lover or a gay relationship where I also get to keep my husband. I have been the target of toxic couples and unicorn hunters and this is NOT that. I'm just trying to find belonging, that's all.

I (34F) always known I was bisexual, but have often had that weaponized against me by men in my life and grew up super religious where I wasn't allowed to date anyone, much less girls. I've gone through ALOT of ups and downs with my sexuality over time.

I'm now with a man who is the best of the best and super supportive, and because of this I've recently realized and accepted that I am actually very queer and attracted to women (almost) exclusively. I'm very sure of this and feel like I've finally found "me".

The kicker is that I don't want to leave my husband and I am still attracted to him, but literally not to any other man on the face of the planet. The thought of sex with another man makes me want to vomit.

My question is, for those who may be in similar shoes as me, have you experienced much prejudice from the lesbian/queer community because you still have a man in your life?

I'm not looking for a relationship, just a sense of belonging and a friend group, but I am very worried about being rejected when I finally feel like I figured out where I fit in, and am curious about other people's experiences with this to reassure myself that I will find my tribe eventually. I'm looking for a sense of community, NOT to get into anyone's pants.