Trans Lesbian here TW: Male Presenting

Hi! So, I’m 56 (about to be 57) and almost a year ago came out as trans. I’m in a long-term, committed, Ethically Non-Monogamous relationship with my cishet partner.

I believe that trans women are women, and since the great majority of my attraction is to women, that would make me a lesbian.

However, after 8 months of HRT, I still present as male, and I don’t have money for surgery.

I’ve felt uncomfortable in the great majority of social situations throughout my life, and I really don’t want to feel uncomfortable in a community that feels like home to me, even if my outside doesn’t match my inside. Any suggestions? I would post a photo but it’s not Sunday.