Hi Ladies! Hope Yall are doing well 🥰

So... I've got an interesting question/discussion... For those of you who dont know me, I'm 39 and at the beginning stages of ending a 17 yr toxic/abusive hetero marriage (with 4 kids). I came out to myself, my sister and best friend, about half a year ago, and ever since then, I have been processing over and over what being a queer woman means to me... the psychological and emotional aspects of it all.

I am gradually discovering what attracts me physically, mentally, and personality-wise in a woman... and I started thinking, "Hmm... I wonder what a WOMAN would find attractive in me. I wonder what a woman would see looking at me from the outside... and if I would be desirable."

While I understand that this internal question partially comes from low self-esteem, from a lifetime of negative body image, trauma, and PTSD... but I wonder - would I ever be found attractive in the eyes of another woman? I know what it feels like to be attracted to a woman, I even know what it feels like to be attracted to a woman's personality and mind (from the many crushes I've had on friends growing up)... but when I try to answer the inner question, "What would a woman find attractive in me?" I always seem to come up with a BLANK.

I'd love to hear your input and if you may have experienced something similar. 💕 Thanks