I find myself more and more craving to be with a man. I’ve never been with a man in any capacity more than making out, but I feel like I need to do all the sex acts with a man and bottom. I use toys frequently when my wife isn’t home, and I always watch gay porn.

I have a Growlr on my phone (more low-profile than Grindr), but lately have been fantasizing about a co-worker. He’s older, gay, and married. He always talks flirty to me at work, and we text frequently, but he sees me as the married, straight, co-worker (I assume).

He’s also married, but has mentioned several times stuff like “if only you weren’t straight…” jokingly. I know many gay couples still have some consensual fun on the side.

I would love to make my interest subtly known to him and would be over the moon if we were to become something like FWBs, but it seems like a minefield to navigate with our marital statuses and my perceived orientation.

Thoughts?