This is for the straight and bi dudes on here that are in a serious long term relationship with a woman or married to a woman.

• Is it something you've ever discussed with her?
• if not, what is holding you back and what are you afraid will happen?
• if so, how did she react? And does she allow you to do it still?

I'm single at the moment, and while I've had girlfriends in the past aware that it was something I had done, when I was in the relationship, I wasn't actively seeking out buds during that time.

Next time I'm in a relationship it is something I'd like to be open and honest about with her. Probably unlikely but I'd love it if she didn't have a problem with me doing it still.

I have 1 JO buddy where the wife is aware and lets him do it, but aside from him, the rest of my buds who have a gf/wife, they keep it a secret from their partners.

I wish women were more understanding of men's need to do this with one another and that it is something that doesn't threaten at all what we have with them.

P.S. also did a different discussion on if you've ever discussed your JO Buds interest with your friends here.