I’ve (f) noticed that one of the managers (m) at my job refuses to say my name when he needs to have my attention and it bothers me. He is the manager of a department I spend most of my time in therefore I have many encounters with him. We have short conversations occasionally and he also does know my name but never says it.

He will say ” excuse me ” or ” you there” or something else. When I have my headphones in and he wants my attention he will make some noise like slam a water bottle hard on the table or shuffle the trash can to get my attention instead of just saying my name.

I wouldn’t mind if he did this to everyone but he seems to only do this to me while he uses everyone elses name. When he wants to grab someone else’s attention he will lightly pat them on the back to get their attention instead of slamming something hard on a table . I need advice on how to handle this.

Edit: - Everyone keeps saying he doesn’t remember my name. But when I ask him to correct something for me he does it on the spot which means he not only knows my name, he also knows my work-ID number without me telling him. One time my coworker told him to hand me something (she said my name) and he came straight to me , which means he clearly can put a name to my face. I’m not a new employee im just back at work again for 6 months now after being on leave for a little more than a year, before that I rarely worked at his department. We work together 5 days a week and there’s not many employees per department. He makes sure to call everyone by their name , even the new girl who just started a few weeks ago.

• As for the pronunciation I have a very easy name to pronounce and my name is only three letters , you can’t go wrong. There’s people at our job with far more complicated names than mine and he still says their name.

• Headphones- everyone at work wears headphones to block out the loud noises and to focus better on the tasks. It’s even encouraged . However, most of the incidents where he has startled me with jarring noises have been when I wasn’t even wearing headphones and we’ve been in close distance.

• gender- I also keep hearing that it must be cause i’m a girl and he doesn’t know how to behave with females. My job is not a male dominated workplace, we have a fair amount of men and women of all ages and he seems to be capable to be show decency to everyone.

I can tell he’s a very awkward manager in general but atleast he seems to not startle everyone else to get their attention.