I feel like the first culture shock of being here is the safety aspect. I've left things in my bicycle basket and found them there after a grocery run.

But it's starting to feel like, as an expat, men are trying to push the narrative that it's SO safe and we can disregard ALL safety precautions. Not just foreign men, but local men too.

Someone in a neighbouring town tried to push me to stay the night at their place (separate room, of cooourse) because I can't just visit the town for one day. Another guy in my town flat out said he wanted to see what my apartment looked like and how I'd decorated it as a foreigner. A few have asked me to visit them in their cities for a night out, and it's all feeling strategically icky. Like even if we were just going to hook up, I'd vet you first? Why do you want me isolated, in a foreign country, in a completely unfamiliar town, completely reliant on you?

Is this a common thing or am I just matching with the worst of the bunch?