I was thinking about my thinking on my walk the other night and I realized that I had a Ni Fi loop when it came to trying to "solve" my dating dilemma. I feel like in essence that dating is an exaggerated form of gambling and I am trying to beat the house. If it was not out of biological and Maslow's Hierarchy I would consider this a waste of time and valuable resources. So in effect is this all pure dumb luck? I have worked on myself ( dropped 55 pounds), have a decent job, have a place of my own, have some hobbies, try not to come across as needy, and still nothing. I get no one owes me anything but it seems like there is no way to best the house (except not to play). It is not like I need to quit playing at the Sahara and need to go to Uncle Joe's slot parlor. The only other option is foreign dating but I need to save up some PTO to go abroad. Even the overseas option seems jaded as a substitute. I also try cities with greater gender balances in my favor but I do wonder if it would work better in person vs online.

Tldr it seems like I get stuck in a nifi loop trying to analyze data and find the "missing data" when it seems like there is no data and I am beating my head against the wall.