Hear me out. I have tried to think of multiple scenarios in the past where I am X or Y and some scenarios just seem stupid. Things such as someone getting a disease , someone kicked to the streets as a kid because of X or Y, someone's child has some rare disorder, aomeone loosing their money because of a bank run ( which happened to my great grand father), people who have been raped and abused, people who lost parents, etc. Have my sympathy at the least even if I cannot understand it.

What I can't understand is victimhood mentalities. " Oh I was born in the wrong town", " Oh the reason I am poor is because others are rich", " Oh I am not that smart", " Oh I can't move", " I am too stupid so I need to vote for the public teat", " oh I am systemically opressed". I get there has been historical and persistant issues for some groups of people, but to me it seems like people's mindsets are what hold them back. I really don't get this.

One time someone asked me if I had two parents, as if that is the be all to end all ( one of them died). Also I grew up in a dead rustbelt town, was not well off, did not have connectuons for a job,and had to use my Fafsa to move half way across the country. Not to pat myself on the back, but within 3 years of moving I went from part time work that paid 9 an hour to a job that pays a hell of a lot more than that and is full time ( would say the amount but trying to be genwric as possible). I don't mean to slam on anyone, but when I think of run of the mill situations, I think it is usually their fault and they take no ownership of it. I feel bad but I have been there and have overcome. Or the other thing that gets me is when something is systemic, they pinpoint the wrong thing and continued to be screwed by the forces that they can mitigate.