Having more trouble

I settled on INTJ as my type but recently I've been questioning it. I've heard that it's not normal for INTJs to do things for pleasure. We're all centered around efficiency and doing things for no practical reason doesn't fit in to our personal plans. Personally I think it's important to indulge in things you find to be fun, I play video games and smoke weed all the time. I don't plan EVERYTHING, but I like to have control over the things I care a lot about. I always plan out romantic relationships (it's become a problem), and often times I find whenever something unexpected happens it takes me a little bit to adjust. However, if I don't care about something I could not give less of a shit about how it goes or how much control. Is that just a trait of Fe? Maybe because of a strong Fe I only use my other traits when I find something I care about? I'm not super goal oriented either, but I'm thinking that's just because I'm still a teenager. However, when I do think of a possible life track I do plan it out. I've been trying to figure out my type for a long time, and help would be appreciated. Ask questions in the comments if you need to, I'm willing to answer them.