Hi, Im an intj that wants to understand enfp, I need your help.

I'm quite reserve when talking about my feelings or anything about myself. I was lucky enough to find someone that i enjoyed talking to and she happened to be an extrovert. I was not expecting anything out of it other that it being a casual and temporary conversation that i had with a stranger.

1 day turned to 1 week, then became few months. I started opening up and felt really happy that someone took an interest in my personality and not my hobbies or passion. Small talks turned to deep conversation. I don't use the word "like" easily since i see it as a vague and deceiving word but around this person we started using it more frequently from "i like talking to you" to "i like you". I was happy to hear someone say that to me, it made me feel whole and heard.

From late night talks to random texts in the day, I started feeling happier having someone to talk to in this level of depth. I wouldn't say that I've fallen for this person, but there is something growing in me that wanted more. I tried really hard to be more open and attentive to their needs but its still hard for me to fully believe what they say about me so i kept my guard up in case anything bad happens.

Multiple texts and long conversations, cute texts and the occasional "i wish you were here", "come over", turned to silence, being ignored and seen zoned. This was some I knew that was going to happened but it hurt. I start wondering what i did wrong, whether it was something i said. I felt used and taken for granted even though there was nothing going on between us.

conversations started to be one sided with me being ignored, felt like they don't want to talk anymore. I started backing away to avoid getting hurt even more. What hurt the most is when they finally decided to talk, it was one of the trashiest thing that anyone has done to me. "hey, I can't sleep" and i responded and tried being as nice as possible (which i regret truly). Me being dumb carried on with a light conversation which turned to them saying they were sleeping with someone and that someone is beside them. "He's sleeping beside me" Anger, disappointment and disrespected, 3 things i felt very strongly. It's something that they could've kept to themselves and not share while someone is beside them.

As people who are in tuned with their feelings, why is it that some use it carelessly without considering how it will affect others?