i need some help from your POV. i firmly believe my dad was an INTJ also, and i have trauma from that. However i know my trauma responses are not healthy. we have been together 2 years and he’s committed to me. we aren’t married cuz we are weird and don’t want that but we would if the other decided it was very important. i am really getting good at not being over emotional, but it seems sometimes like any emotion or conversation is too much. i’m ok with that and am very good at entertaining myself to give him space.

that being said, i find my biggest fear is making some vague unforgivable mistake and my INTj will throw up his hands and be like im out, but his behavior and conversations tell me the exact opposite he’s here for the long haul.

can you intj’s accept your partner is over emotional yet still want to be with them in a LTR/marriage? Are you all quick to leave or am i projecting IFTJ door slamming?