I’m intersex and we’ve known since I was born bc it was super obvious, but I’ve been raised male and always presented male, but a lot of people insist I’m trans, and then other people say I am cis, am I one? I don’t want to say I’m trans bc that feels like I’m claiming struggles that aren’t my own but I use he/they so cis feels wrong

Edit: just to clarify

This might be tmi so just skip this and read the first part. My parents refuse to discuss this with me as they’re both very very Christian but the jist I’ve gotten is that I was born ambiguous, the doctors could tell I was intersex right away but far far more male leaning, my dad saw this as meaning I was a boy but my mom saw this as she got a change to have a daughter since even though I was mostly male I still had some female anatomy. She opted to major surgeries and I had almost deadly complications during one which caused them to stop pretty early on, they had to cauterize and try to sew things back but it’s left me with a sort of permanent pain with any contact down there, i know the feminization wouldn’t happen under any other circumstances as I was more male leaning unfortunately this doctor was a member of my church and so yk- I feel very unlucky that those were my circumstances, I’d like to have fully masculinizing surgery. I was told i was betraying the intersex community with this. I’m sure this was a one off and the rest of the community doesn’t feel this way I just want to check and get advice

Idk much about how I looked at birth but today I can definitely tell it was far more male and that I’ve been feminized (not a ton but a bit) but I’m unclear as to which parts are done and which I was born with