I (afab) very recently discovered I'm intersex, and it's caused a lot of mental and physical discovery. With it, I've started some medications that severely lower my libido, as well as that I have almost no desire to explore that side of myself currently.

I've been seeing this girl, she's been absolutely lovely and amazing. We're extremely compatible, I thought we'd been having a great time. Invited her over, we were going to get intimate, but I just couldn't bring myself to that yet. I told her, we had some long conversations about everything, and she was extremely understanding. We agreed to meet again for Valentine's for some dinner and to stay the night again.

I had been planning to ask her to become official then, but I found out she's still sleeping with a man she'd been seeing a few months prior. Of course, we aren't official, and we aren't dating, and I dont have the ability to give her that intimacy right now (which I made clear). But it still hurt, I feel like I'm failing tremendously in that realm of dating, and I'm not sure what to do.

Do I keep seeing her? (I cant ask her abt it, this wasn't something I was supposed to find out)

Any advice is greatly appreciated, I'll be booking some therapy appointments to deal with my personal body issues, but things like my incredibly low libido wont be solved just like that unfortunately :(